Friendship is one of the greatest gifts the Lord can give us. And if you’re lucky, you have at least one person in your life that you’ve been friends with for a long, long time.
That being said, let me introduce you to my best friend Melanie. We met the summer after 6th grade at basketball tryouts. It was a match made in middle school heaven. We both loved sports, ice cream, Disney channel, and sweatpants. We also both had braces, wore glittery purple and blue eyeshadow, and sported polo shirts on the reg.
Just as a side note, if you find someone who still wants to be your friend after your most awkward season of life, then you need to hold on to that person!
Fast forward to the present. I went to watch Melanie coach her middle school volleyball team last night. While I was sitting on the bleachers watching the team warm up, I let my mind wander down memory lane. All the way back to middle school. I started thinking about what I’ve learned after being best friends with Mel for over 12 years. And I came up with a list of some of the most important truths about having a long-time best friend. Some are funny. Some are sappy. All are 100% true and have actually happened to us on at least one occasion in the past decade.
I’m sure if you’ve had a long-time best friend, you’ll be able to relate to at least a few of these. And if not, feel free to laugh at the fact that some things about my friendship with Melanie haven’t changed since middle school.
- You drive to her house when she’s home alone so she won’t be paranoid or lonely.
- You buy her favorite snacks for your pantry so it’s stocked the next time she comes over.
- You were her teammate for years, and now you get to watch her coach a team of her own.
- You have the liberty to tell her those pants make her butt look big…and then have fun as you listen to her decide whether or not that’s a good thing.
- You go shopping for yourself, but instead you find a bunch of things you know she’d love.
- You don’t have to pay her back every time she buys you something because you both have an ongoing tab.
- You’re both perfectly okay with silence.
- You don’t just tell her she has mascara smudged under her eye. You lick your thumb and wipe it off for her just like her mom.
- You look at old ladies in coffee shops and talk about how that’s going to be you two someday.
- You know you need her stamp of approval for your significant other before you will allow the relationship to go any further.
- You leave clothes at her house and she wears them until you ask for them back.
- You know her favorite drink at Starbucks without having to write it down…even if it is a grande skinny decaf toffee nut mocha with caramel drizzle and no whipped cream.
- You know when something is bothering her, and you have the courage to ask what it is.
- You understand that sometimes she doesn’t need you to solve her problem. She just needs you to listen to her.
- You can laugh at pictures of the two of you from middle school when you thought duck faces and peace signs were cool.
- You work on compiling stories for your maid of honor speech before she’s even engaged.
- You make a rule that your husbands have to be friends because they’re going to be neighbors one day, and they’ll host weekly barbecues together during football season.
- You have no doubt in your mind that you really are going to be best friends forever because you’ve already survived middle school, high school, college, first jobs, breakups, sports teams, tear-filled fights, long distances, and a million cases of PMS.